Here in America, we don't want our children to suffer. We don't want them to struggle, feel pain or have challenges.
Here in America, we are handicapping our children and setting them up for disaster as adults.
Newsflash: failure IS an option, and it is not always a bad thing.
Success consists of going from failure to failure without a loss of enthusiasm. ~Winston Churchill
Failure isn't fun. Like the author of this article, I have had my fair share. I diidn't make my varsity soccer team. I dropped out of high school. I declared bankruptcy at 21. I have had articles, stories and poetry rejected. I have lost at love and experienced failure as both a teacher and student. I can say, confidently, that after a long string of what I would consider failures, I wasn't particularly enthusiastic.
Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts. ~Winston Churchill
Somehow along the way I had someone or something model the importance of getting up after failure and trying again. This is not pithy advice, offered lightly. Struggling is no fun. Failing feels really bad. It may make you cry, berate yourself, snap at your kids and be a generally horrible person for a time. You may get weary of starting over, and you may throw up your hands, at times.
If you are watching your kid fail at something, you may be inclined to intercede on their behalf so they do not feel this way. Unless it is a safety situation, DO NOT. Allow them to struggle when the struggle isn't life-threatening.
Success depends upon previous preparation, and without such preparation there is sure to be failure. ~Confucius
Failing is preparation for something else. Your kid will not work hard without skin in the game. Life is neither easy nor fair, and if you strive to provide a childhood in which it is both, you will instead create an adulthood of constant disappointment and disillusionment.